children left home alone

You can get married here at 16 without parental consent but it would depend on the child if I'd leave them at 14 ,maybe one night as a trial .I have friends who left theirs at that age and they came home to a wrecked kitchen and loads of damaged carpet and furniture.Apparently a party got out of hand !

I was 15 when, living in London, my father was taken critically ill in the Lake District (on exercises while serving in the army), My younger sister 8 1/2 years younger) was whipped away to stay with relatives, while my mother went to be with my father. I was left at home so I would not miss school. I don’t remember how long she was away, but it was at least two weeks. I was fine.

What I didn’t know, of course, was that friendly neighbours in the married quarters were secretly ‘looking out for me’.

There's no legal age, but if a child comes to harm, under 16, then parents can be prosecuted.

I wouldn't have left my 14 year olds alone. God knows what I'd have come back to..?

Shinamae

I think 14 is the legal age a child can be left alone

There isn't a legal age.

I'd certainly leave a 14 year-old alone during the day, but not four days straight.

Don't think school safeguarding would be impressed

I posted this back in June. Thanks for all the comments, things are ok now, although the mother has been known to SS for a good few years. The family aren't my neighbours.

Reported.

They are far too little to be left unattended. That would be acceptable if there were a few more mature, trustworthy siblings nearby. But if it were an essential business travel in this instance, I would check to see if she could stay with a friend. geometry dash

Poor child .
He or she is too young to be left alone .
14 is a vulnerable age .
I wonder what the circumstances are and perhaps the parents have no choice trying to earn a living .
If it were a neighbour's child I'd offer some help .

my youngest (a teenager) would be ok for a few days but one of my older ones is living with us atm and I think this might be clouding my view. I could definitely leave him for a night though but we have a dog (does that make a difference I don't know)

Fourteen is very young to be left alone for 4 days. Imagine if there was an emergency of some sort, they'd have no idea how to cope at that age. My son was 17 when I left him for a week and even then he spent most nights at his grandparents.

As others have pointed out, there is no legal age for children to be left alone, it is up to the parents to decide. I know I wouldn't have left mine for more than a couple of hours at 14, and certainly not overnight, just think what they might get up to!

Both Sets of GPS were away and my DD had booked long in advance a two-night-away celebration of their wedding anniversary. As one DD was 17 and had passed her bac a year in advance and the other 14 her brevet, she thought it would be safe to leave them. They left Saturday morning, Sunday, she received a text message from a neighbour asking her if it would be possible for peace that night as he was going to work the following day.
When they got home the house was spotless.

I would say a bit young , but again he might be quite mature for his age as he and his mum don't seem to have a lot of outside support. They have probably discussed " what if" scenarios and she is probably in contact regularly , that is one of the benefits of mobile phones. You are obviously not a neighbour, but if you able perhaps you could offer support if this type of thing occurs in the future , even to be a point of contact should he need you. At least it is a "work related" and not some drunken jolly with a new boyfriend.

Nowadays there are too many busybody neighbours ready to snitch to social services or the police.

Bath in the 1950s/1960s when things were a lot more casual my parents would never have left me alone for days at 14. For the off evening yes!

I was 16 before I was allowed to remain at home alone while my parents and sister went off to Wales in a caravan. I didnt want to go and told them I could not get those 2 weeks off work. My mother insisted on asking a neighbour to look in every couple of days but mostly she never got an answer. I also had a friend come and stay with me - female of course. I enjoyed the experience so much that I decided I wanted to get my own place. I was not able to manage it until I reached 22.

I don’t really think it ‘all depends on the child’ personally You can be as sensible and mature as a 20 year old but something out of the ordinary could happen and it’s also VERY lonely to be on your own for four days
Would worry the doodah out of me if I was that mother and I couldn’t have done it, work or not
I can understand this lady has no family to rely on but not ONE friend who could keep an eye on him!

I seev it’s all sorted now but it’s an interesting discussion

Depends on the child and what is actually going on, unless you're a fly on the wall you dont know. Why don't pop in if are so close, offer to help, your phone number etc if you are concerned. My daughter would have been fine, my son wouldn't, but the question never popped up. He might have someone close to come in a few minutes if he had a problem.

It does depend on the child but, thinking back to when I was a social worker, we were supporting 16 year old Mums who lived on their own with their babies.

We used to leave 14 year olds at home if we went out for the evening but never if it was overnight. I think for overnight perhaps 17 or 18, depending on the child. Not 4 days for a 14 year old though. I would call that child abuse.

It’s a massive responsibility to be expected to cope alone for 4 days and probably child neglect in some form.

Some 14 year olds are more capable of safely being on their own than some 70/80 year olds.

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If mother and son have been living together without help of neighbours, boy's father, or grandparents for long, then he'll have done a lot more than you're worrying about every time his mother's been unwell! If you actually want to help, you could offer your number and email address "for if anything crops up and he needs help". For this visit if it's actually ongoing, and for any future trips that might eventualise. At the very least you could prevent him undergoing the ministrations of social services, should anyone decide to "dob them in".
I wish them both the very best, and I hope everyone on Gransnet does too.

Surely it depends on how mature the individual child is. I know my youngest son was very mature and capable at 14/15.

I wouldn’t leave a fourteen year old in the house alone if I went away,
I think 16 they can manage a few days.