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Brooklyn Becham's wedding

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Vintagejazz Mon 11-Apr-22 20:33:44

Apparently it cost 3 million pounds.

AIBU to n think that is a crazy amount to spend on a wedding, no matter how rich you are?

Dickens Tue 12-Apr-22 08:22:17

I agree about McCartney I even remember him saying that he told his children when they were teenagers "you're not too special to wait on tables" and before they emerged as adults their upbringing was completely private as it should be.

I don't know if it's true - but I remember reading years ago that McCartney's children were sent to State schools for their education because he and Linda wanted them to have a 'normal' upbringing. Kudos to him and her if it's a fact.

volver Tue 12-Apr-22 08:15:19

I don't care how much money the Beckhams have and I don't care if they give to charity. I don't care how much the wedding cost and I don't care if Brooklyn doesn't have a job. How that family and any other spend their money is nothing to do with me. They are not oligarchs, they are not in public office, they are not royals holding themselves up as examples to be followed.

All I see is a couple who may have had a rocky marriage in the past but have stuck together for quarter a century, who have four (five?) children whom they seem to love and whom they are proud of. I think we should leave them alone and not criticise them for not doing things the way we want them to.

Vintagejazz Tue 12-Apr-22 08:13:38

I agree. Paul McCartney gave his children a far better ethos, and I suspect did them a favour in the long term.

Like a lot of young people Brooklyn seems to aspire towards careers for which he does not have the necessary flair and talent. But unlike most of those young people he has not had the necessary reality check, and continues to live under delusions about his abilities. They is preventing him from growing up properly which is why I think he's not mature enough yet for marriage.

snowberryZ Tue 12-Apr-22 08:05:28

I think the Beckhams support a lot of charities. So I think people are being unfair to them in that respect.
But , I do think the whole thing is a little bit vulgar, given the present climate.
Back in the day, a lot of people were fascinated by celebrities and their lavish lifestyles.
But excess extravagance is seen as vulgar these days.
So I think it's a case of 'They haven't read the room'.

Dickens Tue 12-Apr-22 07:58:15

BlueBelle

I ve always known that Beckham has done a lot of charity work coastpath it’s not that that makes me feel sick its the ethos that weddings should be this hugely expensive razamataz what message does that give to young people about to get married Young people now have the message firmly in their heads that a good wedding has to cost thousands

It’s the example that’s set …. it’s vulgar and obscene to overspend on one day

I don't think the Beckhams are obliged to act as role models setting examples of how to live good and sober lives. It's up to parents to educate their children and that includes giving them an understanding of economic reality and that they are highly unlikely to enter the world of fame and fortune no matter how well they play football or warble the latest 'hit' in their bedroom with a pretend microphone.

If we're relying on the celebrity world to 'set examples' to young people, then I think we've reached a very sorry state.

I don't know a lot of young people but the ones I do know - including my own family, have their heads firmly screwed to reality and their feet on the ground and are highly unlikely to be influenced by yet another fashionable wedding in the celebrity world.

It would be better if parents - and maybe educators - were the role models that young people aspired to... those that are personally involved with them and can encourage them to use their talents to achieve their own goals and ambitions.

TerriBull Tue 12-Apr-22 07:45:37

Yes it is their money, and the father of the bride, who probably paid for the whole blinged up tasteless display has far more more money than the Beckhams. I'm sure they all give to charity although can't help thinking DB's ambassadorial role in the up and coming Qatar World Cup indicates a lack of conscience, after all when you are as rich as him surely, in spite of whatever the fee is, to be associated with a project so tarnished in the shameful way this one is, in the way the immigrant labour is treated leaves a question mark hanging.

I can never understand why the Beckhams have continually exposed their children to the public eye from the time they were born and through their childhood when the children could hardly have made an informed choice about that, even if they court publicity now as in the case of their first born, but then that's the life he has always known, in his world it's normal.

Brooklyn Beckham isn't that different from other people's kids who haven't yet found their way in the world, except he does it with huge amounts of money. He won't be the first who has dropped out of college, or did a bit of this and that which hasn't amounted to much. His problem is he is doing under a tremendous glare of publicity, so his failures are highlighted and magnified. He is known as rich kid, who has had an expensive education not put it to any use and merely rides on his parents' coat tails. Growing up is often a learning curve, this boy is known because his parents are famous but also for his complete lack of talent. Who gets a book deal at 18 or thereabouts, for photography which was unanimously panned for the discernible lack of talent it displayed. When he drops out of the prestigious art college in NY after first year, he then gets an apprenticeship to a famous photographer,(shame on him for not giving it to some kid with talent) it was reported that he didn't know the very basics and had to be shown everything. He continually up loads photographs showing off his umpteen tattoos or sucking the face off Nicola Peltz whilst lounging around in their umpteen roomed million dollar mansion. Of late apparently he has gone from aspiring photographer to aspiring chef, but similar to getting the apprenticeship with top photographer, he goes one better and gets a programme which costs something in the region of $100,000 to make all to show him ineptly assembling a sandwich. No coming up the hard way for young Beckham slaving away in a hot kitchen for hours on end on minimum wage. All in all it just makes him come across as some pampered rich idiot with equally indulgent idiot parents. I can't understand their rationale in exposing their kids like they do, and with their eldest looking more foolish by the day, he could have grown up normally and done daft things as young people often do, but without the eyes of the world upon him. The younger brothers seem to be shaping up in the same way. Maybe Harper will pull something out of the hat to justify the expensive education!

I agree about McCartney I even remember him saying that he told his children when they were teenagers "you're not too special to wait on tables" and before they emerged as adults their upbringing was completely private as it should be.

H1954 Tue 12-Apr-22 07:28:41

I wonder if Victoria managed to smile for the photographs ?

M0nica Tue 12-Apr-22 07:07:38

I agree Chetsnut. The cost of the wedding is none of my business and both parents are exceptionally wealthy,

It is more that so much money is being spent on 2 people who show no sign of having the capacity, let alone the pride to go out and earn livings for themselves and live on their earnngs, which, is what both sets of parents did, but are happy to, at the ages of 23 and 27, still be 'dabbling' in careers and living off their parents indefinitely.

As you say. Paul McCartney, gave his children as ordinary a upbringing as possible and they have, in their turn gone out to earn their own livings and have successful careers in their own right. I feel mild contempt for one couple and respect for the others.

Kim19 Tue 12-Apr-22 06:32:33

Should we stop celebrating altogether then?

vegansrock Tue 12-Apr-22 06:18:00

Our royals set a bad example then. And what about the jubilee?

Whitewavemark2 Tue 12-Apr-22 05:50:15

Of course his parents’ wedding was in such good taste, and a small event. ???.

BlueBelle Tue 12-Apr-22 05:20:08

I ve always known that Beckham has done a lot of charity work coastpath it’s not that that makes me feel sick its the ethos that weddings should be this hugely expensive razamataz what message does that give to young people about to get married Young people now have the message firmly in their heads that a good wedding has to cost thousands

It’s the example that’s set …. it’s vulgar and obscene to overspend on one day

DiamondLily Tue 12-Apr-22 05:05:57

vegansrock

HIw much did William and Kate’s wedding cost? Not to mention H and Ms? Who paid for that?

The taxpayer.....who else? ?

At least the billionaire and the Beckhams were using their own money.

vegansrock Tue 12-Apr-22 03:16:42

HIw much did William and Kate’s wedding cost? Not to mention H and Ms? Who paid for that?

Kim19 Tue 12-Apr-22 01:41:30

I daresay the wedding created lots of jobs for lots of people.

Deedaa Mon 11-Apr-22 23:54:02

I will just add that a friend of mine worked for the Beckhams and found them very nice. He is so far removed from either celebrities or football that he didn't even know who the Beckhams were till we told him.

Pepper59 Mon 11-Apr-22 23:43:40

Sorry, but given how people are living, worried about bills, worried about feeding their children. I don't care if billionaires paid for the wedding, it's obscene. So many rich people could do good with their money. Instead it's who can have the biggest, most noticeable event, car, house etc. I get the point that the Beckhams do quite a lot of good that folks don't know about. What about the rest?

Chestnut Mon 11-Apr-22 23:43:00

merlotgran

I read that Brooklyn is an aspiring chef!

So that’s why Gordon Ramsay was invited. ?

I read that he struggled to make a cheese sandwich. He's a very average young man in looks and intelligence and has far too much far too young. I admire Paul McCartney who brought his children up to a normal life with none of the trappings of wealth and fame. It's a challenge for wealthy people to bring up their children with any kind of work ethic when they know mum and dad have millions. Living in poverty is often the key to success in life as it drives people to achieve great things.

MawtheMerrier Mon 11-Apr-22 23:32:42

Ladyleftfieldlover

Sadly, he is very young and the bride is a few years older - it won’t last. How can it?

DH and I were 22 when we married in 1970 and straight out of university.
We “lasted” until his death 4 years ago.
Who’s to say whether the longevity of a marriage has more or less to do with age than commitment?

maddyone Mon 11-Apr-22 23:28:00

It just seems rather vulgar to me, especially since the events in Ukraine are so sickening. I know life can’t stop because of Ukraine but………..

Elizabeth27 Mon 11-Apr-22 23:02:05

It is a very small percentage of their money, it's all relative.

I would think many businesses benefitted from this.

trisher Mon 11-Apr-22 23:00:21

Can't help it got to contrast Beckham and his lifestyle with Newcastle footballer Alan Shearer, a man who played the game better, has his feet firmly rooted in his home town, and has raised money for and supported many charities.
I feel a bit sorry for Posh & Becks kids. Their values must be so skewed.

Coastpath Mon 11-Apr-22 22:53:56

Makes me totally sick when babies are dying of hunger in Yemen and other countries

* Among his many philanthropic interests, soccer superstar David Beckham is a founding member of the Malaria No More UK Leadership Council, and a supporter of Help for Heroes, a charity aimed at helping injured service personnel returning from Iraq and Afghanistan.

His own charity, the Victoria and David Beckham Charitable Trust, provides wheelchairs to children in need, and his focus on helping children has led to his appointment as a Unicef Ambassador.

In this role for the international charity, Beckham’s focal point is Unicef’s Unite Against AIDS Campaign. He traveled to Sierra Leone in January, 2007 with the organization"
iMDb.

Coastpath Mon 11-Apr-22 22:47:49

Sadly, he is very young and the bride is a few years older - it won’t last. How can it?

The bride and groom are 27 and 23 respectively.

Posh and Becks were 25 and 24 when they married and have been married 23 years.

BlueBelle Mon 11-Apr-22 22:47:19

Makes me totally sick when babies are dying of hunger in Yemen and other countries