Dummy Blind

None of my grandchildren have had dummies and they all suck their thumbs. Not a good look on 12 year olds. My niece gave her daughter a dummy then told her that the 'dummy fair' would collect it (at a given time). It was handed over with no problem.

Thanks for that tip sarahcyn I will pass it on to DD2 whose 2y old baby loves her dummies! It seems an holistic way to curb the habit without upset. Brilliant!

3 children, five grandchildren, no dummies. I hate seeing photos of beautiful babies with them in their mouths.

Good tip for quietly ditching the dummy: make a little pinhole in the dummy. It changes the way it feels in the child's mouth and they soon lose interest.

According to the Lullaby Trust and the Infant Sleep unit at Durham University, research suggest use of a pacifier may reduce the risk of cot death. But the risk of cot death diminishes steadily after 4 months.

I’m another one who doesn’t like photos of babies/toddlers with dummies, (or sucking on a bottle) but as the title of this thread suggests, many parents are “dummy blind”. From the replies here, it would seem that lots of people have no issue with it, so everyone can have their own opinion?
My OH smokes, and I don’t like photos of him with a cigarette in his mouth and I don’t like photos of myself eating.
Even though things may be a part of everyday life, one may not like having them recorded in a photo.

My daughter gave up of her own accord.
I would watch her having to sit on her hands to make sure the fingers never crept into her mouth.
Sometimes they would, and she'd shake her head and wave her hand around..

How did those with children who sucked their thumb get them to stop?
Or when did they stop naturally.
Dd is 2, but is speech delayed and we believe may have some other issues. It’s very much her security. But I am worried about her teeth etc. Plus she starts full time school in September so I’m thinking we need to try and get her out of it soon.

My Nan sucked her thumb, and had a variety of white muslin cloths, for whatever she did with those whilst sucking.

I was told to use a dummy because children who sucked thumbs/fingers ended up with distorted teeth and wearing braces because the thumb /fingers pulled at the teeth, whereas children who sucked dummies did not have such problems

Yes, DS did end up wearing braces, where DD did not, but this had far more to do with the shape and size of his palate and jaw than whether he sucked his thumb or not.

Also I now have a thumb sucker ?
I’d choose a dummy every day of the week!

Some of the most adorable pictures of my DS as an infant feature a dummy.
I really could not care less what other people thought of the accessory he was a happy child and that’s all that matters.

Plus anything that reduces SIDS by approx 90% is bloody amazing in my books.

I'm not keen on seeing older children with dummies, but its no skin off my nose if they aren't mine.
My daughter never had one, but she sucked her fingers and rubbed a smelly old vest on her nose instead.

My Speech and language therapist friend says dummies are really bad for teeth and speech development.
I believe her.
My own DC did not have them though I did try with the youngest who spat it out.
One of ours sucked his thumb in fact he was born sucking it. It was red and raw.
Trouble is you can't stop the thumb sucking but you can throw away the dummies.
DD uses them for her babies but only at night or for naps and then weans them.
There's a tree in Copenhagen hung with dummies which children have outgrown.
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I used to suck plum stones for comfort when I was a child. I hate to this day the foster mother who pulled my stones from my mouth.

Cherrytree59, as I said earlier, dummies and sleep can/often go together. it is the dummies being used all the time when the baby, and more especially the toddler, is awake that I really struggle with

There is 'some' evidence that a dummy (soother) can prevent SID.

I know that 'some' Mums use a dummy for this reason and not just to stop their baby from crying.

Showergel, not sure why I am being shamed
The parents I refer to were seeing their children for between 1 and 2 hours, perhaps 3 times a week at a contact centre, and the only thing that was important to them was to stick a dummy in their mouth

Each to their own. I must admit my children never had dummies but it doesn't really concern me what other people do. Perhaps they have babies which cry a great deal.

I must admit I don't like to see older children with them.

I can't stand them either and neither DD or DGS used one - the difference I see is that they are more common now - they were completely out of favour in the seventies when DD was a baby (where we lived at least) but now they seem to be openly used in public.

Dummies rock! They can be cleaned, sterilised and give comfort. You never see a child at school sucking a dummy but you see lots of children sucking filthy thumbs. Comfort, or photos.....hmmm, I’d rather see a content child any day.

Some children like a dummy and find comfort from them. Only one of my four grandsons has had one, and I can assure you it had nothing to do with lack of attention or cuddles. Some children prefer sucking their thumb, others like a comfort blanket or have a little ritual such as stroking hair. I can’t see a problem with any of these things. They’re harmless enjoyments, surely?

I’ve no problem with dummies or with photos being taken of children with dummies. I used dummies for all my five children and none of them suffered in the mouth and teeth department. Dummies can be a very useful aid for mothers as well as a source of great comfort to the children. Most of my children had grown out of dummies (apart from perhaps at bedtime) by their first birthday but one of them liked his dummy so much that we never went anywhere without a spare and he was still going to bed with a dummy when he was three. On the eve of his fourth birthday, the dummy fairy stole his dummy from under his pillow (shades of tooth fairy) and he never asked for it again.

I think mums these days tend to use dummies less, perhaps for fear of criticism, and I remember feeling quite cross with my younger daughter a few because she refused to use a dummy and preferred to just let her child cry. Child just became a thumb sucker instead.

Pretty rude showergel to someone who has given time and love to 100+ children when they were in need.
And where did the unpleasantness come from re dishwashers and daddies rushing home to cook?

I cannot bear dummies; neither of my children ever had one, and they wouldn't even tolerate the teat of a bottle.
I too was a single parent and managed to work and pay the mortgage, and other things, without recourse to a dummy, for me or the children.

I was a single parent with a demanding full time job - no gushing Grannies round the corner desp'rate to pitch in - so I was anything to make life as simple as possible.
I had to keep my mind on paying the mortgage and making sure there were enough babybel cheeses in the fridge to even care about dummies,
Absolutely rock bottom of my list of priorities.
Ha! I can completely sympathise with those parents of the fostered children and so should you be able to lincolnimp as a foster carer - shame on you.
Not everyone has no job, granny nearby, hubby earning and dashing home to cook and read dd a bedtime story while mummy loads the dishwasher.
Dream on...

Showergelfresh. Having Fostered over 100 children I have never taken a photo of any of them with a dummy in their mouths----and yes, most were aged o-4 years and we take loads of photos for their memory boxes
If a little one came to me using a dummy all the time, it wasn't long until they only had it to help them sleep.
We found lots of cuddles and distractions soon took the place of a dummy.
Unfortunately the first thing a parent would do when they had contact would be to stick the dummy in