AIBU to feel a little bit hurt?

Does he normally ask you what you have on when he visits during the week? If he does, then it would be unusual for him not to ask this time, but if he doesn’t then maybe it’s because it never occurs to him to ask, whether you have anything on or not.

It is better than having someone who wants to know what you are doing every minute. I don't think you are being unreasonable but unless you were likely to be doing something special or unusual, there doesn't seem anything strange to me in his not asking. Maybe he will ask when he gets back what you were doing. I can't really see why it would upset you unless he never cared about what you were doing or how you felt about things which doesn't seem to be the case.

If I go away on my own for any reason it doesn't occur to me to ask what my DH is going to do, probably because I know he will just mooch around the house though.

can you get him to invite my hubby next time lol i could do with some peace at home .mine is ill sits in a chair with tv on mostly and keeps asking what am i doing whats for dinner/ tea enjoy have some ME TIME

I should just relax and enjoy your few days. Can't see any need to be upset. Chill out!

Why on earth do you think he has to ask her if he can visit his daughter Melanie ? It would have been nice to tell you he’d changed days but does it really matter in the scheme of things you like your weekends free ( you said) and you ve got it He hasn’t beaten you or stolen your money or had an affair just enjoy your time alone you ll have plenty to talk about when he returns

If he treats you well generally, I would not worry. I think, if you look at the big picture, it isn't so terrible. Yes, it would have been good manners to have asked you but we all slip from time to time.

Long story, PamelaJ1 not relevant to this topic and rather complicated. It just works best that way for all three of us.

In any case, as he normally goes in the week I would not want to miss out on my choirs, voluntary work etc

However, I must put my iPad down now and attend to my list of what I hope to accomplish this weekend!!

Sorry, I’ve just asked the same question as others. I started the reply outside in the sun, my iPad overheated and I had to let it cool down before I could post?

They really don’t think the way we do!
He won’t have meant to be hurtful, he obviously sees you as a lively independent woman who can organise her life herself.
Just one question. Why aren’t you going with him?

Yes, I am sure he knows I am fine, but when this weekend trip came up about ten days ago, I did remark that I had nothing happening and would have to think about what to plan. So I did expect out of interest, or simply to check I was ok, that he would ask before he went. No, it does not surprise me, on reflection.
No, lemon grove, he did not expect me to go with him. He always visits his daughter alone and that suits all three of us. No problem about that.
I just feel he was a bit lacking in consideration, that’s all. There was a longer trip I was vaguely interested in ( too late now) and if I had known about his trip I might have gone. I just never expected him to be away this weekend.
But it is ok.

Do you ask him what he is doing when you go off to your voluntary work, meeting with friends, seeing the grandchildren and the other commitments, whatever they are? Or do you assume he is busy too?

Be honest ?

As for me I’d like to be told of a change to the usual because I would probably have planned to go away somewhere nice where he wouldn’t want to come.

Just polite I think.

Yes, you are a bit cabbie
MrA swans off at the weekends to go sailing, or during the week to do stuff & it wouldn’t occur to him to wonder or worry about how I was going to occupy my time. He rightly assumes that I’m quite capable of filling my days with various pursuits that I enjoy and perhaps MrCabbie feels the same about you.

It is a bit odd that he never asked you though.Is this normal for him? Was he annoyed that you didn’t go with him?
Some time apart now and then is good for all relationships, but yes, husband and wife do ask each other about what they will be doing.

From what you say, this must be uncharacteristic behaviour, so I can see that you'd be a bit taken aback, but perhaps he knows that you usually have other things to do when he sees his daughter and just forgot to ask you.

Well I suppose you can't help your feelings, Cabbie, so I won't say YABU. But you've said yourself you like time on your own, so why sweat the small stuff? Your weekend sounds lovely just as it is, and I certainly wouldn't feel hurt. I'd be waving him off with a big smile on my face.

He got what he wants you ve got what you want I don’t see a problem, sorry if that’s not the right reply