Gransnet makes me feel lonely

Jamsidedown, I think we all seem to feel the same when we first join. I have started to chuckle now when I kill a thread, before I wanted to cry.

jamsidedown i have no friends. i am very much alone. I am a very private person due to many years of being bi-polar. People just cant cope. I lurk too. I have posted a couple of times and you just have to bite the bullet and jump in. the more you do the more people will reconise you and the more they will get used to you.

Ellie Anne, please don't give up, you will be glad you didn't I promise x

I'm always being told off Ellie Anne don't let it put you off.

Just think - it's you, not me.

Ellie Anne, I'm sorry you feel like that. I too was a bit wary at first, because some people seem have been here for ever and I thought I was an interloper.
I steer clear of the contentious threads, I have enough stress in my life without adding to it.
What helped me initially was dipping a toe in the games and having a bit of fun, you then get to know people a bit better. Have a go, don't be put off by one nasty poster. Most of us are actually quite nice. .

Nellie, I understand some of the things that might be making you feel down. Please pm me with a rant if it helps get it off your chest. I'm happy to listen.

No Charley girl . I felt l’d been told off!

There is a welcome thread toolodtobeamum

Ellie Anne did you let that person know?

I agree with you jamside. I often feel everyone else knows each other.but I find some of the discussions interesting. I did ask a question once about a medical issue and one of the responses made me feel so bad I have kept a very low profile since.

I was once very upbeat on here.
Yes, you were Nelliemoser

I hope the cloud that is pressing on you lifts soon

Nellie, sorry you feel so low. Is it anything you can talk about? Are you able to get out for a walk?

I wonder if there could be a forum Welcome to Gransnet....introduce yourself here. It could be a way to break the ice.
Kind thoughts to all lonely Gransnetters!

I think of you often Annie sending best wishes and

Thank you soop, I am in too unhappy a place to join you all but I do just like to sometimes pop and in read , such laughter and everyone so active, I like that

"Alienated"?? or "isolated" is sort of how I have been feeling for some time.

This is more to do with the fact that I have been feeling very down for some time now (all sorts of other stresses imagined or otherwise) rather than anything anyone on GN has said or done.

I have not been posting as much as I did. Many of the posts I have made around Christmas were dreadfully negative.

If you are feeling stressed and low in mood getting the energy to feel jolly and sociable does not come easily.
There is a big vicious circle going on in that observation .

I think I need to get off to the kitchen for some vitual TLC.

I was once very upbeat on here.

Thanks Soop I am sure it is me really. I don't feel that your kitchen is for me because I am not around enough. I have not been on here since I posted on 22nd and so have only just seen your reply. I am sure that if OP pops in daily she will soon feel included. It all depends on what you want from GN.

That is a good point ethel, just to be able to get something off your chest in the virtual world that you might not wish or be able to share face to face.

Good to see you popping up now and again ethel.

Hi jam. Im ethel and sometimes my threads dont get much attention either but persevere. Sometimes its nice just to get it off your chest by posting. Ive been on here about 4 years. Good luck. I will always talk to you x

The kitchen is lively and I don't think it's at all cliquey though I can see it might seem that way. Just join in and have your say - you will eventually get to know us.

Luckygirl in the kitchen we do not mean to come across as being "cliquey". I think that we have "known" each other on line for years and are aware of what some people have been through in the past and recently. You will always receive a warm welcome and we never have a cross word to say to anybody unless as in on one occasion one person was quite rude about us.

AnnieB Luckygirl Please, do give the kitchen a wee visit. The atmosphere is friendly. It's a matter of sharing ordinary, every day experiences. I believe in kindness. Confrontation is not for me. I'm far too much of a wimp to set foot over the threshold of certain forums. Although, having dared to push my way through the battered door of the Argy Bargy Caff bearing a messy upside-down cake, I thoroughly enjoyed myself, and will continue to barge in from time to time.

Virtual calorie-free cake Luckygirl - whatever you like!

That one is a large coffee and walnut cake.

Cherry x think I will post Welsh places and misspell them ?

I look in soops kitchen but to nervous to join.

GN is my link with the outside world and so many lovely people