Charities 'canvassing' for money

Any charity that rings me or lobbies me on the doorstep just gets told firmly that I do not donate money to any charity that contacts me in that way.

If it is a charity that I support I tell them to remove me from their telephone/house to house contact list because if they contact me again in that way I will immediately stop donating to them - and I did do that to one charity

I also have a rule not to donate to any charity by direct debit. I set a certain sum of money aside each month and write a cheque to one charity I support each month on a rota.

I have no trouble cutting people like this off. And no way do I feel guilty.
It is them that may need to feel guilty. I dont have any problem with this, or lose any sleep or anything else about it either.
It is their problem, not mine.

Yes I have had these calls and like yourself explained that I donate to my chosen charities.

The last call I told a white lie. I put on a woeful sounding voice and asked "ae you calling from the hospital"
She said no and I whined "I'm waiting to hear from them".
She apologised and hung up.

My thoughts exactly RosesR

Wheniwasyourage thanks I will look at that.

www.cafonline.org

Nelliemoser, I have gone on about this on similar threads to what I think must be a boring extent, but if you investigate the Charities Aid Foundation (CAF), you might find it answers your needs. You set up an account and then make a regular payment of at least £10 per month into it. If you are eligible for Gift Aid, CAF claims it for you and pays it into your account, and they also take small contributions for their own expenses and for the NCVO. Then you can make online donations out of your account (including the Gift Aid that the charity could have claimed if you wish) or you can use the Charity Card they send you, and in both cases you can choose to give anonymously so that the charities can't get you. We have even sent an extra payment to the account at times so that we can give to a particular DEC appeal anonymously. You can also set up regular payments if you want, and I assume that they too can be anonymous.

The website is a bit slow, and not the most user-friendly one I have used, but it works and you can change which charities you give to without anyone complaining.

Hope that's of use to you.

Anya, from the Samaritans?! beyond belief.

Yes, we were subjected to high pressure tactics from Samaritans on our doorstep yesterday

Wheniwas I would probably prefer to give anonymously. I could not do that with the regular scheme but both charities benefit so much from the "Gift Aid" charity tax allowances for which you have to give your details.

Ana Yes I felt guilty as well that's what they are aiming at.

I send back, using their own prepaid envelope, any junk mail I receive from charities.
I do donate to a couple on a regular basis but not the ones who bombard you with junk mail.
The main one sends me a regular update in a very interesting magazine and I happily contribute more when I can.
They benefit because they never phone you or bombard you with junk, freebies etc.

I was subjected to a very high-pressured pitch from a young woman on my doorstep yesterday, appealing for donations on behalf of a well-known children's hospital.

It was all there in her spiel - ask about the children/grandchildren, tell them the neighbours are all on board and have agreed to contribute every month...she even handed me a photo of a terribly cute little girl with an eye-patch to look at.

I already donate to several charities and at the moment can't commit myself to any more. I do object to emotional blackmail-type cold calling like this - it's no wonder more and more people are complaining about the methods of some charities!

(PS I felt guilty for the rest of the day, of course...)

I am getting quite annoyed with two charities I support.
With one of these I make regular monthly donations. In recent weeks I have had very pushy calls from both of the charities asking me to up my donations.

The one where I make regular payments subjected me to a very high pressure sales pitch from a woman, and talked me into upping my regular payments. I don't usually get talked into anything so later on I Emailed them complaining about the high pressure sales pitch and cancelled my extra donations, but made a lump sum payment instead.

The other one was a call following the Nepalese earthquake to which I donate via the particular member charity of the Disasters Emergency Commitee I use for such emergencies. His pitch was along the very same lines as the previous one. "We thank you for your support and generosity etc etc. "can you make us regular donations." After my previous experience I told him I was not going to agree to anything over the phone.

I really did not like this approach but I do not want to stop supporting these charities where there is dire need.

I can afford to give what I do within my monthly income but in some months my spending is a lot higher. (I have just had car serviced MOT'd and four new tyres. (Gulp!) I do need to watch my bank balance stays in the red. The thought of very vulnerable older people getting dragged into upping their charity giving beyond their means frightens me.

I do need to write to the second charity about how pressured I felt.

When my mother started declining, and then died, it took me months to get round all the charities which had her on their databases. She did, when she was able, send to those she approved of, but not others, and never more than she could afford, but I resented the fact that they kept asking. To be fair, they all took her name off very quickly, except for the Salvation Army, which needed several phone calls and appeals returned in their pre-paid envelopes - what a waste of money, but it seems to be the only way to be noticed sometimes.

We usually give anonymously, but recently have responded to 2 DEC appeals online. Not any more, as we have had 2 appeals by post from them. Like a lot of you, we give what we want to whom we want, and resent our donations being wasted on postal appeals or worse, "gifts" to encourage us to give more.

Are these charity canvassers paid on piece rate?

Just to say I have just seen a piece on the news about this lady which stated that her family do not blame the charities for her death. They were not her only concern, she had health worries too. I think the first piece I heard may have been a bit biased.

Usually I am very firm with them and stick to my corner. I will give what I want to whoever I want. The call mentioned on my original post above got to me on this occasion as we have just been through cancer ourselves as I said. It is the attitude of 'have you any idea of what cancer patients go through?' Well, yes I have actually having lost my 16 year old nephew to leukemia and then my DH's experience last year. I can deal with them but I can appreciate that a 92 year old can feel pressured and upset by them trying to make her feel guilty.

I've just dashed of an irate e-mail to the main Cancer charity. I was a shop volunteer for a while and was happy to give donations of money as well from time to time and read the many e-mails that get sent. However, I was upset by one that showed up in my inbox address to me by name with the title. 'Why have you stopped?' Somehow it hit a nerve, they know nothing about me and my circumstances and the whole e-mail seemed designed to guilt me into sending regular donations. I must admit I find the manner of many of their TV adverts are somehow crossing a line....promising that with 'my help' they will somehow eradicate all cancers.
They do need to be a bit more careful in the wording of these things....its just not that simple.

I think this is appalling. I believe the Charity Commission should do more to regulate what charities do with their lists of donors. I believe they should be banned from passing on contact lists, not even being allowed a tick box select in or out option.

Their methods of fund raising should also be curtailed with a strong code of conduct that limits them to phoning donors no more than twice a year and asking for raised giving should be limited to once a year. Mailings should be limited to 4 a year.

Me too Lapwing. I will be more firm. I am doing my bit, I can't do more, sorry as I am for anyone suffering.

I read that also, and will certainly feel less guilty when I say no to charity phone calls. Such a sad story and so difficult for the family.

I have just been reading about the 92 year old lady who her family say threw herself to her death into a gorge because she was being hounded by charities. She had apparently been selling poppies every year for 76 years and was being inundated by charities who had been (allegedly) passing her name around as someone who would give. She had 27 standing orders set up for different charities and in one month alone received over 250 letters asking her for money. The stress of not being able to help them all drove her to her death her family believe

FlicketyB I like your style and agree with you totally that we, not the cold caller, should be in control of the situation.
I never feel guilty about cutting a call short and giving them a firm 'no'. When I retired I cancelled all my regular monthly charitable donations and decided to give what I could when I could to any cause that I felt was worthy, but I avoid doing this online for the very reason that my details are then out there and I would be pestered.
I have never forgotten my utter disgust when watching TV coverage of Children in Need many years ago. As it crossed to the local events, a crowd had gathered and the presenter was moving through them with a mic, talking to selected people. She stopped to talk to one man and asked him what he did for a living. He told her he was a teacher. She then asked him how much he was donating and he said £10 - now bear in mind, this was about 25 years ago. She raised her eyebrows and said "£10? Is that all?" and moved on, shaking her head in disbelief. I was so shocked at her attitude, I vowed never to support this charity again.