Adjacent driveways!

We too have a shared drive. The block of two garages is situated in between our houses but separate from the front gardens and side access. Our current neighbour is brilliant no disputes at all. He is away quiet a lot and has told DD to use his drive when he's not there. But the previous resident was really picky. If DH was washing the car or we were seeing off visitors and we inadvertently stood on his half, he would complain. The drive was old grey gravel at the time and I measured the half way point and sprayed a line down the middle to stop him complaining . We and our current neighbours agreed to have the drive block paved. Sharing the cost 50/50

Re the walking over your drive - can you not ask him not to on the grounds that his children then follow his example and you're worried you may accidentally squash them?

You could also mention the stranger watching his child. Does the child wander around outside on it's own?

Thank you people. I did think my post might bring a few interesting stories. I once knew someone who lived in a village in a house with adjacent driveways. I don't remember who started it, but there was a dispute over the width of the driveways and her neighbour built a fence when she was away so that she could no longer get her car up her drive. They went to law and it was still going on when I lost touch with her!

There is something about car parking isn't there? The council stipulation that no household here should have more than one car is, for the most part, nonsense and our street is lined both sides with cars parked on the double yellow and up on the kerbs all weekend and every night after 6pm. People often park overhanging our drive which was one reason we had the drive done so it gave us room to get in and out (which we haven't always been able to do!).

We intend moving next spring so I hope we can keep things on an even keel till then!

I'm not sure about the legal/insurance situation in the UK, but here people are very particular about keeping to their own land. There's a concept of "servitudes" which roughly means share access roads, which lead to all sorts of trouble.
The biggest worry would be if your neighbour or his child, were to have an accident while on your land, could he sue you for compensation etc.?

When we were looking to move, we disregarded a very nice house on the grounds that it had a shared drive, and shared access to the back between the houses, which, when we went to view it, had various outdoor toys scattered along its length, belonging to the neighbour's children. We moved because of a difficult neighbour; I felt that she drove us out at the end, when I couldn't stand her obduracy any longer. We lived in a semi and for twenty years we got on well, then, for no apparent reason, she began to create difficulty over the boundary hedges, people working on my property where it bordered hers, people parking outside MY house, and any number of other things even though we went out of our way not to upset her. We now live in a detached house with a double drive and have the nicest of neighbours, but even if they weren't, we are sufficiently separated from them that they would not be in a position to trouble us. It is worth every penny of the considerable sum we had to spend to have a bit if peace. My sister in law lives in a court of houses where each house has a space and there are two visitor spaces, but there are still disputes over indiscriminate parking!

I sympathise so much with your dilemma as we have a similar situation with our very elderly neighbours. He leaves his car parked in such a way that allows no further parking of a vehicle on our shared driveway. So we are the ones that have to put our car in the garage after each use and have to haul our shopping from the car as if we parked outside our front door to unload we would block the access for everyone else. What do we do about it ? Nothing as yet as we don't want to upset him as they are good neighbours and so we just put up with it as they were here first. However I think if I were in your place I would have to ask your neighbour not to walk across your drive and next time he asks for permission for friends etc to park on your drive just tell him you are expecting company - hopefully they will soon get the message. Perhaps they really just don't get the living in a house bit yet.

All I can say is that there's something very annoying about people parking on/near your property. I don't know how or why that is but I think there's something almost primevil about it. I say this because I'm a very easy going person [I hope] 99% of the time but there's something about the parking of cars that triggers an angry response in me. I live at the end of a cul de sac and we have a couple of 'spare' places that people can use if they have visitors or even just deliveries. Sometimes various people who live at the other end of the cul de sac take one of those spaces over as their permanent parking space and I find myself looking at the car in annoyance, even though it isn't actually affecting me in any way. I think your neighbours are a bit young and naive and need educating a bit; how you go about it, I don't know. It is one of those situations that triggers the irritation nerve in a major way .

It seems that younger people have a more general idea of what space they are entitled to use than they used to have. The freedom after the flat may have gone to their heads, of course.

Plant climbers against the fence and train them up onto the trellis to spread out and up that barrier?

A few containers planted up and put in the 18 inch space between the drives? That would define your space. Park your car at the edge nearest them to fill the space?

If you had been a bit more snippy with them at the start, they might be more cautious of offending you. Is it possible to mention it now without falling out with them? To make friends with them so that they are willing to be more considerate to you?

A dangerous-looking dog would be useful, but that is a move too far! Leaving something lying around on the bit of drive nearest them would deter parking there too, but would look scruffy. Could your recycling bins stand there "to make it easier for you to put them out when you have to"

It's no good asking me for advice how to deal with people, I'm spectacularly clumsy at it, but I thought I'd chip in with a couple of stories in the same vein.

I live in a semi with a shared drive, the neighbour and I have garages behind the houses, with parking for one car in front of each drive. His garage is full of junk, but at times he has up to six vehicles: a works van, family saloon, and up to four racing cars in various states of disassembly.

There's one in front of the garage, one in the end of the drive, one on his front garden, one in front of his house, one across the end of the drive, and one in front of my house. He has filled the rest of the drive with barrows, cement mixers, paving slabs etc. I can just about get the wheelie bin past.

A few decades ago, my mother and her sister used to live in a house in the middle of the town centre, and every Tom Dick and Harry in town used to help themselves to their drive as a car park.

One day my mum moved out into a flat of her own, but when the removal men arrived they couldn't get the van in because someone had parked in the drive. We phoned the police, but when they turned up they just shrugged, said it was nothing to do with them, and went away again.

So they parked the van out in the road on the double yellow lines, and brought the town centre to a standstill for a couple of hours on a Saturday morning while they carried everything down the drive past the car. That didn't seem to bother the police either.