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To have got a bit cross and shouty...

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thatbags Sat 24-Aug-13 12:34:45

... when DH expected me to drive DD to her riding lesson when I had just finished getting hot and bothered (though satisfied with my work) with a hedge cutter, a saw, and loppers, tackling a rhododendron hedge that needs a ladder for me to reach the top, and all he had done this morning is lie in bed until eleven, drink coffee and lounge about reading his kindle?

He always drives her there when we are going to archery afterwards (except for one or two occasions when I have, but that has been when I haven't been hacking rhodies all morning). He likes driving and I don't. He knows this. He hates tackling hedges. Seems like a reasonable split of work to me.

Anyway, I got cross and shouty and they left. I went and had a cross shower and now I'm writing this, drinking coffee (crossly) and biting snappishly into some biscuits. Snarl. Growl.

I started some bread dough earlier. I think I'd better go and thump it.

Grrrrrr and thank you for letting me shout on gransnet. Outward sigh, somewhat releaved by getting it off my chest.

Small growl.

They forgot to take a cheque to pay for the lesson, naturally. Humph.

thatbags Sun 25-Aug-13 07:47:59

deedaa, that happens here too. I put it down to CBA Syndrome (can't be arsed).

shelby, love it. Henceforth I am the hedging fairy (as well as a whole troop of other species of wee people). How appropriate that I started reading The Little Grey Men by BB this morning.

Sook Sat 24-Aug-13 23:38:50

Nellie grin knowing me and my big mouth I probably would have said it and then thought OMG I can't believe I've just said that.

Shelby grin

Nelliemoser Sat 24-Aug-13 23:15:21

The idea of using the word the xxx fairy when something magically appears reminds me of a very busy day at work.

The phone had not stopped ringing and we were horribly busy. The young very openly gay lad in the office went and made a brew and stuck the cup of tea on my desk knowing I never refused. My first thought was to say "oh wonderful the Tea Fairy has been.
Then I thought OMG I can't say that. Then I thought about how x would take it and told him anyway. He was highly amused. grin

shelby75 Sat 24-Aug-13 22:48:59

sook "toilet roll fairy" I love it!! grin Going to use that in my house from now on. Along with picker-upper and tidy fairy, laundry fairy, vacuum fairy, car washer fairy.

Sook Sat 24-Aug-13 22:45:05

Hhmm I am the only toilet roll fairy in our household and when I am feeling really p****d off about having to replace yet another one I DON'T! I just keep one handy in my handbag for my own personal use grin

Deedaa Sat 24-Aug-13 22:35:17

I went into the bathroom yesterday and found the new loo roll neatly placed NEXT to the empty holder. I suppose this might be progress?

Mishap Sat 24-Aug-13 21:09:43

"Cross and shouty" sounds appropriate and therapeutic - go girl!

thatbags Sat 24-Aug-13 16:33:07

jane, Yep! You bet! grin

soop, finished for today, but there's still masses to do on other days.

janeainsworth Sat 24-Aug-13 16:00:06

Good advice Ella and *Elegran thank yousmile
Bags I hope you are basking in the pleasant glow of all you have achieved today and your DH and DD come home suitably chastened grin

soop Sat 24-Aug-13 15:55:20

Oh dear. I do hope that you've finished lopping the high hedge. Goosebumps running along my arm as I imagine you precariously perched on a ladder. hmm

thatbags Sat 24-Aug-13 14:54:25

soop, I made sure that I'd wedged the ladder good and proper by jumping up and down on it a bit without the tools and making sure it was well tangled in some firm branches before I got started with chopping.

thatbags Sat 24-Aug-13 14:52:28

Actually, ella, I think that's a good suggestion. DD is at that awkward age of wanting more independence but still being dependent about daft stuff like that confused

Yeah, jings, I noticed the spelling mistake. Couldn't be bothered to mention it, so thanks, dahling hmm smile

soop Sat 24-Aug-13 14:39:27

Save the crust for your little friend. smile

soop Sat 24-Aug-13 14:36:38

...and you take great care with the tools and ladder. I'm looking forward to meeting you again.

soop Sat 24-Aug-13 14:34:22

bags bellow away...I would. That bread you're making will be all the better for a good wallop! wink

kittylester Sat 24-Aug-13 14:30:10

DHJ will run out of crockery if I die first. But he will wonder what the heck all those plates etc are doing on the work surface above the dishwasher! angry

Ella46 Sat 24-Aug-13 14:21:04

bags next time I would be inclined not to set an alarm, as minibags is old enough to get herself up and then wake her dad!

janea I would just leave the shoes there until he trips over them.

#Iamanastypieceofwork

smile

j08 Sat 24-Aug-13 14:07:10

Unless you have got leaves which you are re-doing.

#treebags

j08 Sat 24-Aug-13 14:06:11

relieved

#titfortat

Galen Sat 24-Aug-13 13:59:31

It's a man and DD thing!

nanaej Sat 24-Aug-13 13:59:27

perfectly reasonable response! flowers I hate getting so annoyed as it spoils the day but sometimes TINA!

sunseeker Sat 24-Aug-13 13:29:46

Perhaps you should leave them a note saying you are out for the rest of the day, will be back at 7.00 and can they have dinner ready - that should wake them up!

thatbags Sat 24-Aug-13 13:28:51

If they should dare, jane, they'll get a right blasting. I think they know this wink

MiceElf Sat 24-Aug-13 13:22:03

Deep respect for being able to use all those tools. Let's hope you are not criticised either for not reminding them to take the cheque which they should have remembered. But I wouldn't hold my breath.

Elegran Sat 24-Aug-13 13:07:02

Next time you replace a toilet roll or kitchen roll, I would be tempted to put the rest of the pack into his bed or his wardrobe - with all the rolls falling out of the pack, of course. If (when) he complains, you say you just put them down there for a while until you felt like putting them where they belong, and as he has found them first, perhaps he will put them away.