to feel hurt by my Mum or should I have got over it by now?

I can understand why you feel hurt,kitty but it's only stuff at the end of the day. Make sure you choose something which will remind you of good times and don't worry about the value of the other items.

I've had to move my mother three times in recent years and soon got tired of the haggling over who was having what. I've had the bother of storing everything (luckily we have a suitable outbuilding) and I'm getting to the point of threatening to get EMMAUS to take it all away.

I don't think you're being unreasonable if you don't feel like visiting your mother at the moment. Just wait until you feel a bit better about the situation.

I would be upset too! I have never had a good relationship with my mother either, we have never actually fallen out - I am just aware that my brother always came first in her affections and nothing I ever did for her was good enough. I know I am not mentioned in her Will, everything going to my brother and his children (not that she has much to leave)

Could your brothers have a word with her and suggest that her engagement ring should really be left to you, or at least some other female member of the family rather than to someone who will probably not treasure it.

If you are anything like me you will not feel like visiting but will anyway!

Oh kitty, I don't think you are being unreasonable at all!