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To object to inane 'banter' on serious threads?

(217 Posts)
Greatnan Sat 20-Apr-13 09:59:27

We are all, presumably, mature adults, and if you have nothing to contribute to a serious, or sometimes tragic, thread, would it not be better to stop trying to trivialise the subject and find another thread where your wittering would not disrupt the flow.
And please don't accuse anybody who objects of having no sense of humour - most of us just know when it is appropriate to make jokes.

sunseeker Sat 20-Apr-13 13:54:27

Oh Galen it is so unlike you to get angry - now deep breaths and relax after all, its only a forum not worth raising your blood pressure

Ana Sat 20-Apr-13 13:50:33

Of course I'd want to comment, Greatnan. My opinion is just as valid as yours. None of us has the right, however, to dictate Gransnet Posting Policy.

Galen Sat 20-Apr-13 13:46:34

Ok! Here goes!
I did NOT SAY that it was equivalent!
I said I dealt with tragedy all the time. Sometimes I just feel that things get too heavy and then try to lighten up!
You are quite entitled to your opinion, but not to dictate to us what we may or may not post!
You are at liberty as are all of us to disregard any posts you do not like.

I very rarely get cross on GN but at the moment I am.
I WILL NOT BE DICTATED TO[angry\

Greatnan Sat 20-Apr-13 13:45:59

In fact, if I remember correctly, on one thread about a tragic murder, the poster apologised and the post was deleted. She accepted that her remarks had been inappropriate, which I thought was very mature of her.

Greatnan Sat 20-Apr-13 13:43:10

Hello, ana. I thought you might want to comment.

Greatnan Sat 20-Apr-13 13:41:53

Sigh. I asked a question. Some people have replied. I did not try to prevent anybody posting anything they like - I just said that I found it annoying.
I am allowed to say that.

Ella46 Sat 20-Apr-13 13:41:42

Exactly Butty

Ana Sat 20-Apr-13 13:41:12

Agree, Butty. I was wondering where this subject was covered in the GN Rules...

Butty Sat 20-Apr-13 13:39:25

The only time I'll take notice of what can or cannot be posted on threads is when there is a directive from GNHQ. There's always the report button.

Greatnan Sat 20-Apr-13 13:39:19

I said it sometimes feels like dealing with naughty children - I stand by that. I just cannot understand why somebody would want to interrupt the flow of a serious discussion. Of course, not everybody will feel they have something positive to contribute, but why spoil the debate for those who have?
I refute the suggestion that chatting on a forum is in any way comparable to being a professional dealing with a tragedy.

Ana Sat 20-Apr-13 13:34:58

To quote from your post, *Greatnan: "would it not be better to stop trying to trivialise the subject..."

I don't think posters who engage in banter on 'serious' threads are doing that. It's not premeditated sabotage...

Greatnan Sat 20-Apr-13 13:34:19

I am never bored, jingle -I have a dozen books waiting to be read and the weather is improving so I will soon be off for a drive and a walk. And there is always something on Radio 4 - 'Any questions' at the moment, so I can shout at the stupid tea-party woman.
You know quite well that this is something that has irritated me before. This time, it was the interruption to the threads on vaccination and education that attracted some irrelevant posts. Why do you do it?

To those of you who have never done this, this thread obviously does not apply to you, so there is no need to be offended by it.

Ella46 Sat 20-Apr-13 13:32:01

Of course you are entitled Greatnan to your views as am I.
You said "Yes, it does feel like having to deal with naughty children who will do anything to get attention."

I am just saying, you don't have to deal with us.

Just my view.

Nanban Sat 20-Apr-13 13:31:57

Quite right Greatnan - you are entitled to say what you want, how you want, and about whatever and you shouldn't be beaten up over it, even verbally. But then again, the same goes for us all so let's agree to disagree and let's agree that we can approach any topic in whatever way we choose as long as it's not offensive.

And isn't it splendid that we can have such a free exchange of views and not be drummed out of the club!

j08 Sat 20-Apr-13 13:27:51

Back to my original diagnosis then - boredom. Nothing on the telly?

Greatnan Sat 20-Apr-13 13:24:05

I asked if I was being unreasonable to object. You are all free to reply if you think that I am being unreasonable. How is that lecturing? Am I not entitled to my views?

Ella46 Sat 20-Apr-13 13:17:39

Greatnan, I totally agree that some posts can be inappropriate on a serious thread, however we aren't naughty children, although some members seem to be attention seekers, and you don't have to deal with us.
I am past being lectured to at my age.

Nanban Sat 20-Apr-13 13:12:25

This is a serious case of Granny Bashing and I don't even know what started it - what was the serious thread that was so badly disrupted?

whenim64 Sat 20-Apr-13 13:06:17

Whoops! We posted the same thing Greatnan grin

whenim64 Sat 20-Apr-13 13:04:43

Keep reading Jingle. Ganjura's pets are the only creatures Greatnan has for company! grin

Greatnan Sat 20-Apr-13 13:02:52

You are quite wrong, jingle. I am here to house sit and look after her pets while they are in England. Do you really think I need back up to post anything? And we don't always agree on every subject, anyway. We are both quite passionate about some things and not afraid to state our opinons (but we always manage to remain courteous).

j08 Sat 20-Apr-13 12:57:22

Ah! Just seen from another thread you are at Granjura's house. You are both chewing the whole week over! And encouraging each other! Lolol!

grin

Nonu Sat 20-Apr-13 12:53:33

BIG wink Big smile

j08 Sat 20-Apr-13 12:48:46

Where did this come from? confused

Greatnan Sat 20-Apr-13 12:47:29

Nanban, you have not offended me. I would just like to be able to hold an adult debate on serious subjects without schoolgirl humour derailing it.
Ceesnan - you can post anything you like and I can criticise anything I like.
I am afraid I don't believe people do this because they are traumatised by the subject and if they are they could just avoid the thread.