Roadside memorial bouquets

just tell me why Aka's a panda please [appealling face]

(sorry)

I think we can guess to whom you were referring , jingle - the usual target?
I won't be posting on this thread again - unless I am forced to defend myself.

As I said, Galen at 10.57. Great minds...

How about wrapping up this thread?

And this has nothing to do with people hiding their roadside tribute flowers in too much wrapping

When I said about "upsetting her ladyship" that was not referring to aka. Just thought I should make that clear. And I don't send nasty pm' s. Ever.

And if one was sent to me, I would put it online where it belongs - in sight of the moderators.

I think it best to always assume the was no harm intended when abrupt remarks appear. We're all different with different ways and opinions, but I think basically nice people. It's just some are more forthright than others.

If someone thinks that they have had an aggressive pm, then the best way to deal with it is to publish it in full on the thread. Then there is no ambiguity about what has been said, and no chance of veiled but unspecified accusations poisoning the atmosphere.

If the pm is indeed aggressive and bullying, then the whole of Gransnet will join in condemning it. If it is not, the sender will not be tarred with vague suspicions. There was a spate of nasty pms a little while ago, which led to peopleleaving, some of them because they were so hurt, some because they were asked to go. Please don't let the forum get into all that again.

May I just make it clear that I do not send aggressive pms to anybody. I think Aka could have asked for clarification in a less demanding way and I would have been happy to apologise for my failure to analyse every word in my post.

Interesting how very far this thread has strayed from the OP. I suggest that it should be laid to rest, without roadside flowers.

I wonder if HQ have got a little bell on their off-duty computer that rings when someone posts something naughty late at night.

I hope I didn't get Geraldine or Cari out of bed.

You must admit the thread's been going on for some time now. It's a bit done to death. (No pun intended)

Good grief, I don't know about a naughty step or slapped wrists but all this nasty snipping etc on what could be an interesting post. Every time I leave GN for a week in the hopes that people will stop being horrible, I see something like this. I'm off!!!

We have lovely sunshine here Nonu. And the sweet flowers of an early summer in an English garden.

So there!

I'm going back to Game of Thrones (book form) It's easier to follow.

I find these threads confusing. Don't know who's getting at who.

And I don't know why Aka is a panda. [shrug]

Cazcandoit " how brave to wait till most people have gone to bed before you come out to have a pop. "

I was watching the effing telly up till then!

Oh dear! Upset her Ladyship again have I? (I don't mean Geraldine) (although that is also quite possible)

when I didn't know I'd read anything wrongly until I got back off duty and read all the posts accusing me. I'm not an uncharitable person. I asked a question and got jumped on. But yes, peace

Yes, let's stop it. It's so much easier to be a little charitable in the first place, ask for clarification and move on with the discussion. Everyone can join in then. Peace.

Thanks Nfk that's it ...simples! Let's stop this now when.

Stop it all of you or I shall have to come and slap your wrists and put you on the naughty step! It was a misunderstanding. Simples.

A quote about semantics:

'Some people, always other people, twist the meanings of words, especially during the course of an argument.'
SI Hayakawa

This nastiness all arose because the word 'they' was used as the subject in two consecutive sentences. In the second sentence as 'they' was repeated I took it to mean that it referred to the previous sentence ie 'they' meaning the roadside effigies put up (raised) the statistics of road deaths. Instead of the second 'they' had you said Greatnan that the authorities put up the statistics then it would have been clear.
It's all very well other people jumping in and saying 'I understood ' but harder to understand are those who attacked my question.
I don't know why I'm bothering to explain a genuine mistake except I'm disappointed in some GNetters for their attitude, but I'm posting this rather that replying to aggressive PMs that were sent to me.
I would like however to say that I too am 'grateful' for the support of those who could see where I was coming from.
I'm not upset by this incident but it has opened my eyes to certain posters who have done themselves no favours by revealing to others their proclivity to nastiness.