Both my Grandfathers 'died in harness' so I only knew my Granny and my Gran. They were like chalk and cheese. Granny (Mum's Mum) wash posh. A semi-invalid she was always immaculately dressed, with snow white permed curls, shampooed and set by my Mum at least twice a week. My spinster Aunt who lived with Granny and my Mum both worked full time but between them they waited on Granny hand and foot, while my Dad did her garden, painting and decorating etc. She only went out if taken by car, sitting in the back seat in a fur coat and hat with a travelling rug and a stone hot water jar at her feet, waving to anyone she passed like the Queen. We were expected to be 'seen and not heard' in her presence and behave in a ladylike fashion.
On reflection, I believe she was the only person I ever knew who did not like my lovely, kind, helpful Dad.
My Gran (Dad's Mother) never seemed to sit down, always busying about her room and kitchen, chatting away, in broad Doric, while stoking the range, baking and cooking, making jam, ironing on the kitchen table with an iron heated on the fire, taking meals to sick or elderly neighbours, washing clothes by hand and running downstairs to hang them out in the back yard. She was always telling my sister and me that she had no idea what to do with girls (having only had three sons) so she would just treat us like boys, So we were sent on errands to the shop ('and there should be enough change to get you each an icecream'), given our Dads Meccano set or a football to play with, and most importantly given the job of sorting out the jar where she put her Co-op 'flimsies' which had to be put on a metal spike and counting the loose change which had also been flung in the jar. Once counted we had to do the sum, in our heads, of dividing the total by 2 and if correct we would be rewarded with half of the money each as "the jar was getting too full". Every time we went through this ritual, Gran would express her amazement that 2 girls could complete what was really a boy's job. This from the woman who had taught all three of her sons to cook, clean, sew and iron. She used to call us random names like Toots or Teenybash and when asked why mysteriously explained that it was only safe to use proper names on Sundays. She used nicknames for her sons and husband too.
I loved her to bits.